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What Happens When You’re Not Clear?

I can’t help but shake my head over this thought – the one about how CLEAR I am right now. It’s SO obvious! Having clarity about my sense of purpose, my personal power, and vision of what comes next is so joyful that I can hardly keep still. I realize now that, even though I was “close” to my purpose and power, I wasn’t quite there. There were a few things missing that I’d like to share with you about being clear.

What Happens When You’re NOT Clear

You Feel Stuck. What is it they say about doing the same thing over and over and getting the same results? Oh yes, insanity. Well, I wasn’t quite there, but month after month I followed somewhat of a routine that really wasn’t giving me the results I said I wanted. It was like boarding a plane that just sat on the tarmac. Instead of taking off, I was going nowhere. Then I wondered why I was frustrated. Hmmm . . .

You Get Distracted. My attention was all over the place. I love everything I do, and I have a lot of different things going on simultaneously. I used to call it being “busy”, when in reality I was distracted from my purpose. In trying to help people AND animals, run a business, be on a board, write articles, belong to organizations, teach classes and take appointments, I found myself not really doing what I now know is my purpose.

You Feel Unworthy. This was one of the hardest signs to accept. Even though I always felt worthy, I didn’t feel as worthy as my children or even strangers whom I was trying to help. I put myself last. Does that one sound familiar? I know now it’s really part of my purpose to feel worthy. Worthiness means that I’m showing up for others in the best possible way – strong, centered, and worthy enough to be recognized and paid for the invaluable skills I’ve developed as I’ve invested in myself. It’s liberating to feel worthy again.

Things Are Slow. I told myself that eventually I’d get more clients, have more students, and help more people.  I thought I just had to keep doing what I was doing (see the first sign – feeling stuck) Oh, my business did grow over the years. I also grew – tremendously, in fact, in my spiritual practice, skills, healing techniques and intuitive abilities. I’m pretty visible in the world of Reiki practitioners and local businesses. However, what I didn’t really understand was this. Spirit (God, the Universe, etc.) LOVES speed. When you’re in alignment with your purpose, everything just falls into place and things happen quickly. The Universe says “yes”, and you can feel yourself finally going in ONE direction – the direction of clarity and purpose.

You Feel Fearful. I come across FEAR quite a bit in my practice. It shows up as lack of money, wounds around religion and relationships, avoidance to change or letting go, and many other symptoms. For me, I associated fear with change. I thought that if I let go of some of the products or services I offered that people wouldn’t connect with me – silly, I know. What really needed to happen was a slight shift in my perception toward becoming clear, and all the fear went away. I became excited with the possibilities of new adventure that felt focused (not distracted). I knew that letting go erased my fear.

There’s Never Enough. Name it – money, time, amenities, travel, prosperity, joy, richness in life, FREEDOM. If you’re feeling LACK, you’re not clear on your purpose. There’ll always be lack if you’re in alignment with lack. You look for it, justify it (see the point about worthiness), rationalize it and find ways to support that there never enough. It stinks, so stop it.

You Feel it in Your Body. Eventually, all the feelings, events, traumas, and stress show up in physical form as dis-ease symptoms. As your energetic vibration lowers, your body suffers the effects. If you’re aware of the subtleties, you can catch these symptoms before they get out-of-hand. Weight gain, for example, might be no big deal, but it might be a sign that you’re not processing foods well (digestion), have a lower metabolism (endocrine), or feel like you need extra protection (emotional). Humans are complex organisms, and you know your body better than anyone. Check-in to the nuances of feeling healthy and come into alignment with what feels good. Certainly avoid the other stuff and honor what your body is trying to tell you.

How to Get Clear

I’ll say this as simply as possible. You are amazing, you are whole, there’s nothing wrong with you. You have everything you need to manifest prosperity, joy, health, and abundance in your life right now. Anything not in alignment with this is just not TRUE. When you find YOUR TRUTH, you’ll be very clear on your purpose.

Schedule a free session with me to help discover your truth and become crystal clear on your power and purpose in life.

Why I Hated Coaching

You’ve probably been there, like I have – around the “coaching block” – no pun intended. In this brief article, I’d like to outline a few reasons why I hated coaching and how I came to LOVE an actual style of coaching that really resonates with highly intuitive, sensitive people.

Too Confusing

My first experience with coaching was that it was an actual “thing” many years ago, before I even considered the path I was on and who I would become. I met someone through a networking event, and when we sat down for a chat I felt like we were in separate universes.  Not only didn’t I understand what she did for a living, but I definitely didn’t think it was for me. My mind wandered to someone else she might be able to help – but it wasn’t going to be me. Confused by her message and her occupation, I just didn’t get how we could connect or why I (or anyone else) might need her services. It may sound harsh, I know. But I take some responsibility in this since I wasn’t ready and she wasn’t speaking my language.

Too Pushy

Over the years as my business grew more toward helping people heal, and teaching Reiki, I spoke with other coaches. More than one coach I remember stand out as “pushy”. They had an agenda to sign me up for stuff I certainly didn’t think I needed – or wanted! They were operating from THEIR reasons, not mine, and looked for buttons to push to get me to do something about my “horrible” situation . . . their words, not mine, which brings me to the next reason why I hated coaching.

Too Offensive

How do you feel about name-calling? I thought so. I don’t like it either. I also don’t like people telling me what to do, and how to do it. Under the guise of “truth”, several coaches attempted to identify my “problem” for me. They said it out loud as if to make me feel guilty, humiliated, less than wonderful (as my mother always thought I was – wonderful, that is). I now see it was attempt to get me to slouch low and remit my money to their program. They were somehow going to “fix” me and my business. Seriously?

Too Much Work

Then there were the times I participated in coaching calls and used workbooks. I had to “think”, write, analyze, and do stuff – kind of like homework. Though I was a bright student and excelled at school (I became a biology teacher), that style of coaching made me feel like I was back in school. School is modeled on masculine principles of right-brain brain thinking. I’ve been there, and done that. It’s definitely too much work that didn’t really get me anywhere.

Something Was Missing

I couldn’t put my finger on it at the time, but something was definitely missing from the coaching programs and people I came across over the years. Back then, I didn’t have a clear picture of myself, who I was and how I wanted to live my life. If I jumped into the programs I encountered, it felt like I’d be on someone else’s path of what my life should or could be like. One program came close to being really good! I even have a mission statement I wrote from that experience that still resonates with me. However, the program itself was developed by a company that wanted us to be better “employees” by being better people. Good thinking, but there was still something missing.

So, What Kind of Coaching Works?

  1. Crystal Clear – Relatable, authentic, familiar language that speaks to the nature of a person’s SOUL
  2. No Agenda – No push for a sale, no concern over not getting hired. Just help, help, help – because it’s so needed in the world! Money is energy – not paper. Laws of the Universe say that the more we give, the more we get. If the focus is on “getting”, try turning it around.
  3. Kindness – Compassion, wisdom and understanding all come from the heart. Everyone has their time-table and their reasons. Honor each individual for who they are and why they’re coming to you.
  4. No judgement – No analysis, no outer work. The kind of work to expect in coaching shouldn’t really feel like work. It should be joyful! If you’re calling it “hard”, try a different way.
  5. Prioritize – Great coaching includes healing, discovery, joy and excitement as well as self-care. A holistic practice includes all aspects of relating to people. From that, we find a deeper understanding of who we are and why we’re here.

Over the years working with clients and students, I’ve developed a sense of awareness that goes beyond right-brain thinking and analyzing. It’s called intuition. This seems to be the one missing element to other coaching programs I’ve experienced. Yes, there are skills for coaching – and I’m trained as a Licensed Spiritual Healer. Knowing what to say and how to relate to people are extremely important. However, tapping into Divine Wisdom is a gift and a skill I’ve cultivated over the years. I teach you how to do that, too.

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